6 Helpful Hints for Effective Visiting

“Pure and undefiled religion before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their trouble, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world” (James 1:27).

From time to time I will hear someone say, “I would visit, but I don’t know how.”  Visiting is a principle element of Christianity, and is something that we should be excellent at doing.  I do not claim to be an expert on the subject, but if you feel ill prepared to visit, here are some things I have learned that might be of benefit.

  • Go!  The excuse of “I don’t know how” isn’t a very good excuse.
  • Ask if they want a visit.  If someone is having surgery, do not assume that they want company.  Some people do, some do not.  Please be respectful.
  • Don’t plan to stay long.  Some people think that for it to be a “good” visit that it needs to last hours.  Not true!  Many people do not feel like having a lengthy visit.  If you know the person well and know their preferences, you can choose to extend it, but do not make the assumption that whoever you are visiting feels as good as you do.  Unless there is a really good reason to stay, try to limit your visit to 20-30 minutes.  You would rather someone wish you had stayed longer than to say, “I thought they’d never leave.”
  • Don’t ask questions (at least, about their illnesses).  I know, that may sound strange, but if someone is sick or in the hospital, they may not want to discuss it.  (And, you might learn more than you want to.)  If they want to talk about it, let them bring it up.
  • Offer to help.  And if they say there is nothing you can do, accept that answer.  More often that not, there isn’t anything you can do to help.  On the other hand, occasionally someone will pull out a list of things they need.  If and when that happens, joyfully accept the opportunity that you have to be of genuine benefit to someone who can use a helping hand.
  • Don’t make the visit about you.  This is not the time for you to vent your frustrations about life, complain about your problems, or tell all about your vacation.  If they ask questions, try to keep your answers brief, remembering that you are there to encourage and uplift them.

The list could go on and on, but hopefully these things will help you with visiting.  Of course the most important thing was stated first: Go!  Let us practice this form of “pure and undefiled religion.”

How Deep the Father’s Love for Us

“If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!” (Matthew 7:11).

How great is our appreciation for the Father’s love?  God, the Good Father, the Ultimate Father, loves His children unconditionally.  He does and does and does for His children, giving constantly and above measure.  God is the Perfect Father, whose love is demonstrated in every interaction He has with those who are His (cf. James 1:17).

As the Perfect Father, God has shown that love, however, does not mean giving anything and everything that a child might want.  There are things we might desire that might not be in our best interest, and God does not hesitate to withhold those things from us.  And just like little children, our understanding of His Fatherly decisions may be incomplete, but our faith in our Father’s wisdom, compassion, tenderness, and love provides the sufficiency to our lacking.

As the Perfect Father, God also has shown His love by giving victories.  For example, God brought down the walls of Jericho, the purpose being that Israel was unable to take credit themselves, but instead had to give all credit and glory to God.  This also served to remind Israel that God would fulfill His promise of giving them the land of Canaan.  The greatest example and victory, however, was the Father giving His only begotten Son.  In the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus, God was able to remind all of the promise of salvation and eternal life, and of His faithfulness to those to whom He has promised.

As the Perfect Father, God has shown His love by giving His children things to do.  God has never handed everything to anyone.  Abraham, greatly blessed both spiritually and materially, obeyed (Genesis 22:18; Hebrews 11:8).  Jesus, the beloved Son of God, learned obedience (Hebrews 5:8).  The children of the Father today must obey in order to be free from sin (Romans 6:17).  The Perfect Father has given us things to do.

Spend this week appreciating the love of the Father, understanding that His love means that we will be given good things, and as children our gratitude and love returned to Him should be equally constant and above measure.

The Center of Choices

Isaiah wrote, in Isa. 30:21, “Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” whenever you turn to the right hand or whenever you turn to the left.” (NKJV)

I find this verse thought provoking, especially when it comes to the choices we make, in this life.  

I mean, life is full of choices, isn’t it? Every single day, you and I, we make choices and those choices often determine the story that we write in this temporary life and our eternal life, right? 

It’s baseball season, so I thought I would share an uplifting baseball story with you.

Ruth Ryan, wife of Hall of Fame pitcher Nolan Ryan, and she had one moment, in every game, that she looked forward to. It was a simple moment, it was a simple choice, that was made by her husband, and this choice made all the difference in their lives together.  It probably happened the first time on the high-school baseball diamond in Alvin, Texas, in the mid- 1960s.

Then it happened repeatedly for three decades after that. It was a simple, thoughtful moment and the moment was this: Inevitably, sometime during a game, Nolan would pop up out of the dugout and scan the stands behind home plate, looking for Ruth.

He would find her face smiling at him and, in return, he would grin at her, maybe snapping his head up in a quick nod. It was like he was saying, “There you are; it’s so good to see your beautiful face!” And, Ruth, in return, she would wave and flash him a smile.

Then, Nolan would duck back under the dugout and turn back to the game. It was a simple moment, never noted in record books or career summaries. But, in all the moments, in all of the games, in all the memories they made together, it was this decision, to look her way, that proved the most important to her.

With this simple choice, Nolan showed Ruth that, at the center of all the moments and decisions in his life, was her.

What a beautiful thought that is. 

I’ve been thinking a lot about choices lately, and how those choices influence and impact my Faith, not just myself. And, unfortunately, that’s the first person that comes to our minds, when we make choices, self, and not God, right? In the 22 years since God created me, I have found this statement to be unequivocally true:

Everyday, I make choices and when those choices revolve around God, those choices always turn out great. Those choices always lead me to some wonderful places, in my life. But, sometimes, I make some BAD choices. And, as I reflect upon those decisions, at the heart of all that decision, God was not at the center, self was at the center. 

And, if we are not careful these self-made choices, they can lead us to some dark, dark places in our lives, right?

The truth is, our lives, they are made out of the choices we make. That’s no secret. After all, that’s why our God thought it wise to give us freewill to make our own choices in this life, choices that will lead us down our own direction.

But, that doesn’t mean that God doesn’t expect to be at the center of those choices, because He does. He always expects to be the center of those choices, doesn’t He? God wants us to take the time, out of our busy day, to seek His face, to tell Him that we are glad He loves us, to tell Him that we are glad He is looking out for us. That’s all He wants! 

Read that verse again, “Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” whenever you turn to the right hand or whenever you turn to the left.” (Isaiah 30:21)

Every time you make a decision, God is with you. He is there, no matter the circumstance, no matter the situation, to provide you guidance. God is telling us which decision will lead us down the path to Heaven!

But, there’s a catch: We have to look at Him for that answer in His word, we have to seek His guidance in prayer. We have to show Him that, at the center of our lives, is Him. And, in this life, as long as we have Him, that’s all that matters.

Can I ask you a question: Who is at the center of your choices?

I Am a Christian

I am a Christian.  That means that I am of Christ.  I believe in Him, want to be like Him, and long to be with Him.  I will live my life for Him and in His service.

I am a Christian.  I will love those around me the way that Jesus loves me.  I will care for the needs of others, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  I will love even when I can’t expect that love to be returned.  Thanks to the love of Christ, I am able to show others what love truly is (John 13:35).  I will go see those who need a smile, and I will pray with those who need access to the throne of God.

I am a Christian.  I will worship the Almighty God and His Only Begotten Son.  I will sing praises to His name, pray to Him through His Son, and commune with my Heavenly Father through the emblems of His Son’s death.  I will worship the Father in spirit and in truth (John 4:24).

I am a Christian.  I know that judgment is coming, and on that day all the world will see Him.  Because of the Savior’s promise that all will be judged by His word (John 12:48), I will love, cherish, and adore the word of God, trusting in His Holy Word to bring me to salvation (Romans 1:16).  I will teach others the beautiful, soul-saving gospel for their soul’s sake (Mark 16:15-16).

I am a Christian.  I will give because He gave Himself for me.  I will give not grudgingly or of necessity, but cheerfully, for God has blessed me (2 Corinthians 9:7-8).  I will be a good steward of what God has given me, knowing that the cattle on a thousand hills are His (Psalm 50:10).

I am a Christian.  I will do right, whether anyone is looking or not.  My job is not to exalt myself, but the one who saves me.  My righteousness is not my own, but I will submit to the righteousness of God (Romans 10:3). 

I am a Christian.  I have been redeemed by the blood of Jesus.  Having been bought, I am His possession and am no longer bound by sin (Romans 6:18).  I will live my life free from the penalty of death that sin requires.

I am a Christian.  I have been given exceedingly great promises (2 Peter 1:4).  I have been promised an inheritance (1 Peter 1:4), eternal life (Romans 6:23), a crown of life (James 1:12), and a mansion in heaven with my Savior (John 14:2).  I will hold fast to my confession, for He who has promised is faithful (Hebrews 10:23).

I am a Christian.  Alone I am not perfect, but I have been made perfect (Hebrews 12:23).  Alone I am not pure, but I have been washed (Revelation 1:5).  Alone I am not holy, but I have been sanctified (1 Corinthians 6:11).  Alone I am not a saint, but through Jesus I am (1 Corinthians 1:2).

I am a Christian, and there is nothing else I would rather be.

Do Not Yield

Yield signs are my favorite.  A yield sign means you can go when you can.  If you need to stop, then you stop.  If there is someone else coming, you give them the right of way.  If the way is clear, you just keep right on moving into the flow of traffic.  You make a decision based upon the current situation and you can immediately act upon that decision.  When you see a sign, though, that says “do not yield,” then that option is taken away from you.  It has already been decided for you that you do not have the right to proceed with the  traffic without doing something else first.

Paul was in a pickle.  He had gone to Jerusalem with some Gentile Christians, and the Jewish Christians there got caught up in the idea that everyone—Jew or Gentile—had to be circumcised to be a Christian in good standing.  He had the choice:  yield and go along with their ideas, or do not yield to go with the flow that was heading down a dangerous road.  He chose to stop.  He wrote in Galatians 2:5, “to whom we did not yield submission even for an hour, that the truth of the gospel might continue with you.”  He knew that it would be easier to just go along with what everyone else was saying and doing, but he also knew that if he did that, it would keep the truth of the gospel away from the Gentiles in Galatia.

How many yield signs do you come to in a day—figuratively, if not literally?  A friend wants to copy my homework.  Do I yield?  I could so easily shoplift this Snickers bar.  Do I yield?  Everyone around me is using that language or calling “them” “that name.”  Do I yield?  That new movie that everyone else is going to see has content that certainly does not honor Jesus.  Do I yield?  Scenarios like these could play out dozens of times in a day.

Paul knew—and so should you—that it is a whole lot easier to stop something wrong before it ever starts. 

3 Things to Make Your Jaw Drop

Roller coasters are fun…for some.  Some people get on them and grin, some will scream, some get sick, and then there are those who looked bored.  The point is that it takes more to excite some than it does others.

The apostle Paul has never struck me as an especially excitable guy.  (He would probably have walked past a roller coaster without looking at it twice.)  Yet when we read his words to the churches of Galatia, I believe we are seeing him in a state of intensity:

I marvel that you are turning away so soon from Him who called you in the grace of Christ, to a different gospel,” (Galatians 1:6, NKJV).

Paul “marveled.”  He was astonished.  He was shocked at the behavior of the Galatians, and he was going to let them know about it!

Whether you are excitable or not, please consider these three things from Galatians 1:4 that should make your jaw drop:

One—Jesus gave Himself for our sins.  The Son of God gave the ultimate sacrifice for someone else, even knowing that it would be unappreciated by many.  Even more astounding is that He didn’t give what belonged to someone else, or even just a portion of what He had, but He gave everything so that we might have life.

Two—He provides deliverance from this present world.  Jesus knows that while we must live in this world, we cannot remain in it.  While we remain on this Earth, Jesus has provided separation for us.  He has made us to be holy, sanctified, separate, His own special people.  It is amazing that God is willing to take us with all our imperfections and call us His own.

Three—This was all a part of God’s will.  God has always—ALWAYS—had a plan for humanity, and God has been engaged in fulfilling His plan for our salvation since the very beginning.  His will for our redemption has been proactive, not reactive.

Much like someone who has ridden a particular roller coaster a hundred times, you may be thinking, “I know all this, and I’ve known it forever.”  If this is you, that is great!  These are things that the Father and Son have done for us that we ought to well know.  But do not let your longterm exposure to the grace of God dull your excitement.  Our God is absolutely amazing, and we should never fail to be excited by what He has done.